I love Kathy’s
blog. Touching in on the sweet, genuine
space she has created feels like coming home.
I can relax, breathe, and laugh a little while knowing someone else
truly gets it. As much as the blogging world can sometimes
be overwhelming, I’m grateful to it for allowing me to connect with great
people like Kathy.
Do you ever wish real
life could be a little more this way? A
little bit easier to find someone really cool and just hang out with them? Don’t get me wrong, I have wonderful friends
to count on and love, but it can be tricky to click with people in the circles
of our daily lives. Sometimes this is
irritating, sometimes it downright conjures up those precious days of high-schooly
angst. Nightmare flashbacks over trying
to "just be yourself" while struggling to "fit in", anyone?
Ugh. You’d think we might be past
all the cool crowd jazz when we hit Mom years, but somehow it still works
itself in…
I think fitting into the
crafty moms crowd would be easier if could spout 1,000 ideas for original
homemade Valentines that automatically spray my child’s name in the air with
glitter when opened. I'm also pretty
sure I would own Pinterest if I could do this, not to mention catching the
elusive Martha Stewart's eye. Future guest spot on her show? Stay
tuned.
Finding my place at
church might be smoother if people didn't wince in pain whenever I opened my
mouth to sing. I think I can safely rule
out a spot on the worship team. Forget small talk with those sitting next
to me—it’s best to keep a 10 foot radius.
Trust me on this one.
I think I could really
get into all of the neighborhood parties with the fun ladies who live nearby
and whoop the night away--if my night didn't end by 8:30pm, 9 if things get
really crazy around here. I have to be missing something here with how
parents of young kids actually manage to sleep?
My coworkers and I could
get along great, but as a SAHM, I'm solid workforce of 1. And sure, I
like myself, but can this crazy lady stop ranting about her blog and move on to
something else?
So I search and seek,
and sometimes very petulantly whine to my husband, "I don't belong
anywhere." To which he just said, "Here. You belong here, with us. We're
your home. We're your family."
And I was promptly left speechless. Hot dang, the man was right.
My home is with my
family. This is where I belong. And the thing is, they take me just
as I am. My kids think I’m awesome, just because I’m Mommy. No other criteria required. In their eyes, I’m a rockstar. By the grace of God, my husband loves me
regardless of what comes our way.
Despite all the times I’ve goofed up or been less than a charming breath
of fresh air, he always welcomes me with open arms.
When life feels lonely
or I feel like I don’t fit, I just need to come home. Literally and
figuratively, this is where I “fit in”.
Here, I’m definitely in with the cool crowd. My
cool crowd.
Now, as long as I can
put someone else in charge of the Valentines and giving voice lessons, I think
we're good to go.
You can find Meredith on her blog, and follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Pinterest, where she is one of the 35 Most Pinteresting Moms!

Great post Meredith and so glad you got to guest blog on Kathy's page today. I have these types of moments every once in awhile, too and think it comes with the territory of being a SAHM. But you said it quite beautifully and perfectly if you ask me :)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Janine! It is an honor to be here and good to know you can relate.
DeleteKathy!!!! I LOVE this post!
ReplyDeleteI feel this way so often. I feel like I don't fit in in so many realms of the life I live in here in the States. I moved here 12 years ago, yet I struggle to find solid friendships... I feel like the odd-Mum-out at Gwennie's school events... I feel let down by people that I had thought were friends.
Then I had an epiphany recently. My secure place is at home. Bill is my best friend and he and Gwennie love me unconditionally. I have wonderful parents... and I DO have real friends (even though they may live thousands of miles away, they are still there).
While I would never want anyone else to feel this way, it really does help to know that I am not alone. Thank you, Meredith, for sharing your heart! I appreciate it more than you know!
Sarah xoxo
Sarah, it's so tough feeling like the odd one out, I know! I'm glad you have found your secure place and yeah, it is good to know that we're not along in this. Hoping for less of a struggle for you.
DeleteIsn't it great how much our family loves us, even at our worst. There's not many who would, so yes, we're all in with the cool crowd :)
ReplyDeleteExactly, Shanna. Knowing our family will always love us, no matter what is the best--all the cool crowd we ever really need.
DeleteAw, two of my faves that always make me feel like I am part of the "in" crowd in one place. I love it! I feel the same way about not fitting in. Especially since Gia was born. Now I am the old mom with the baby and there aren't many of us where I live. What's even harder is that as my kids have gotten older, the "high school" mentality gets worse and worse. Makes me want to live on an island.
ReplyDeleteLet me know what island you're hitting so I can escape with you! I'm sorry that it's so hard, AnnMarie, and wish somehow it could all just be easier...
DeleteYou ARE the cool kid! We could start our own choir for the singing impaired!
ReplyDeleteDone! Let me know when our first practice is ;)
DeleteLOVED this post. You have a way with words, Meredith. And this just really put things into perspective for me. One of the BEST parts of being a mom, for me, is that I'm the center of someone's entire universe. No matter what the rest of the world throws at me, there is that one human being who loves me for ME. The Hubs is pretty good at doing that, too. ;)
ReplyDeleteDani, this is absolutely what I try to focus on. What really matters is those sweet kiddos (and husband too!). Give your little girl a squeeze and know she thinks you're amazing!
ReplyDeleteI love this post, Meredith! My personal issue is that I can easily forget who I am in my kids' eyes and that can make a mom feel lonely. But Dorothy was right: there's no place like home. Oh and trust me, girl, no one wants to hear this bird sing either!!!!
ReplyDeleteWe just need to keep focusing on we are in those kiddos' eyes, Stephanie--that's what's important! And we can sit in the back and croon off-key together!
ReplyDeleteOh there is no sweeter thing than to have your family be your "crowd" to always come back to, be with and snuggle into. We are blessed to have this comfort and security with our husbands and our precious littles as so many women do not. I always hurt and pray for those moms with little ones who don't have the support like we do. Breaks my heart! Awesome post Meredith!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Chris. You're right, the blessing of family is a gift and we should feel grateful for it!
DeleteLOVE it, Meredith. Thanks. Honest. True. And you made me smile:)
ReplyDeleteAw, thanks Shawnelle. I'm glad!
DeleteI can completely relate to this! Many, many times in my life I have felt as though I were on the outside looking in. Feeling awkward and out of place everywhere but with my family. I'm fortunate that it's not just my own little family, but with my parents, siblings, and extended family. When I truly feel alone I know they are always there.
ReplyDeleteFeeling like you are on the outside looking in is one of the worst, loneliest feelings, I know. That's so cool that you have such a great family to surround you--feel embraced by them!
DeleteMeredith, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts here with us. It's obvious that we can all relate to feeling on the outside once and a while. I personally cannot wait to get back to my "cool crowd!"
ReplyDeleteI'll bet it was so amazing to fall back into the arms of your crowd! :)
DeleteI love this post Meredith! It is sometimes so hard to remember to value the people who need us and love us the most - our family. It's back to that saying about not wanting to be a member of the club that would have us - not so much rejecting our family, but courting approval and acceptance from others. You are obviously such a genuine and kind person, and if I lived nearby , I'd be sure to keep you awake for good times!
ReplyDeleteAnd I'm sure we would have such good times, Keesha! You're great and worded this so well about "courting acceptance". Thanks for your kind words!
DeleteYou'll always be in my 'cool' crowd, friend. Good post!
ReplyDeleteHanging with you is always SO "cool crowd", my friend!
DeleteIt's true! When no one else will accept you, you at least have your family....at least mine have to by law...or something!! Never mind!! Great post, as usual, Meredith! :D
ReplyDeleteHa! Yes, they don't really have a choice, do they Roshni? ;)
DeleteGlad you have your place where you are part of the "cool" crowd. Seems like its here as well! It is definitely tough making friends as adults- I definitely can emphasize with that.
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